You tell someone that a comment hurt you, and their response makes you feel exposed. Suddenly, you are defending yourself, raising your voice, or searching for a way to leave the conversation. The original hurt is still present, but fear or anger has taken over the interaction.
Bio-Emotive Framework offers a specific explanation for this change. Its theory connects interpersonal feelings, core feelings, and emotions, showing how the emotional response associated with an underlying feeling can differ according to whether the surrounding interpersonal context feels safe or threatening.
The Emotion You Show May Be Different From The Feeling Underneath
Imagine hearing that you were excluded from an important decision. You may initially feel unconsidered or insignificant, then become angry when someone dismisses your reaction as unreasonable.
